When you go through life, you meet people and form relationships. These relationships may develop, or they may not. Some people become mere acquaintances, others friends, and others very close friends. However, some of the people you meet will become very, very good friends. Very, very, very good friends, if you catch my drift. Actually, these people are what we humans call “more than friends”. We’ve all had them. It’s an awesome thing, someone who’s more than a friend. It’s an experience that none of our other friends can give us, a closeness that you just can’t find with normal friends.
Though these “more than friends” are really cool for the most part, some have a tendency to blow up in your face. I’m not saying you get in a little fight and your relationship ends, I’m talkin sucker punch to the gut, hit in the head with dumbbell, kicked in the shin kind of blow up in your face. The kind of blow up in your face where you it down and say, “Woah. How the hell did this happen?”. Those of you who have experienced this know exactly what I mean. It’s an unpleasant feeling to say the least, and there’s only one way for that kind of feeling to come about. You get fooled.
To be led on is one of the absolute worst feelings that any person can ever experience. Love, our strongest, and also most volatile, emotion, has a lot of control over our lives. Some of the most important relationships that we enter into are because of love. Really, we have no control over it. Our love conscience tells us, “Yes, you will do this” and we say back, in the most docile manner possible, “Yes, I will”. We’re helpless, under the potent spell of that treacherous four letter word.
So, you pursue relationships because some animal instinct instructs you too. Let’s say that you find one of these “more than friends”. At first, everything seems to be going great. You talk a lot, you find common ground, you make each other laugh and smile, and you even open up a bit. You tell each other things that normal friends just wouldn’t tell each other. Everything seems to be working out. You do all of the things that “more than friends” should do. This continues for a long time, and it makes you happy. It should make you happy. If it didn’t, well, you’re demented.
You’re floating through the ecstasy that is your new-found relationship when suddenly, as if you walked over the edge of a cliff, it all disappears. The person that you thought was perfect for you somehow reveals that, according to them, your relationship doesn’t mean all that much. They stop talking to you, or find someone else, leaving you in the dust to contemplate how you let this happen. If this has ever happened to any of you, then you, my friends, have been led on. You have been fooled.
Yes, it sucks. But, it happens to the best of us. It actually happens more frequently than you might think. So, if I can offer you any advice to avoid situations such as this, it would be to step back and really evaluate the relationship that you consider to be “more than friends”. Try and view your relationship from the standpoint of an outside observer. Ask yourself if everything is right, if there are any warning signs that might point to this relationship making you look like a fool. If you do this, you might be surprised at what you discover. You may say to yourself, “Wait a minute, that’s not right.”, or “Hmm, I wonder why she’s talking to this other guy so much.”.Do anything you can to make sure that you don’t get hurt in the end. Though Marilyn’s words are discomforting, they do have a degree of truth. Sometimes the only person fooling you is yourself.
Notice that I said that her words have a degree of truth, not that they’re completely true. In reality, women, or men, do fool people. The sad truth of it is that there are people out there who don’t have good intentions, and definitely don’t have your best interest at heart. These people do exist and no one is safe from their tomfoolery.
Like I said, the best thing that you can do is avoid those types of people all together. Don’t put yourself in a situation where you may feel like a fool. I’ve been there, and I’ve done that, and it’s not fun. It sucks. You should have fun with your relationships, you should enjoy them. Do your best to find people who actually want to get to know you. Find people who always make you happy. Find people who actually like you.
In a previous post, I said not to analyze love too much because no one will really ever understand it. Well, that’s still true. But, you should keep an eye out for anyone who might be leading you on. It’s ok to step back and look over things to make sure your not being fooled. You should always make sure that you’re not going to be upset or hurt when everything’s said and done. So, be on the lookout for people like Marilyn, but don’t push away the ones who truly want to know you.
In the words of Adam Sandler, “Love stinks”. Thanks for reading. Don’t be a fool.